After I was adopted, my adopted father was stationed in Korea with the US Marine Corp. He did some research and found a picture in my file of my mother and he knew what town she was in but didn’t have an address.
He went door to door for days with the picture looking for her and eventually found someone who knew her. She thought he was bringing me back to her as she had regretted her decision.
From beginning to present day, Marja’s story is compelling, to say the least. I was raised in Mc Lean/Falls Church, Virginia right outside of Washington D. Did you ever experience any identity issues while growing up? We didn’t really talk about me being adopted because I looked like my parents and family.
We were able to talk with Marja this past June, just after Where and when were you born? My parents are African-American and my mother is very fair-skinned and almost looked Asian at times too.
So, you had no idea that she was actually in America?
He explained to her how I was doing and showed her pictures of me and that I had started pre-school.
After that initial shock, she felt content with the knowledge that I was okay.
He kept this book for me and there was a letter written by him and by my mother explaining their experience of the whole process about their viewpoint and my situation. I think adoptees have this unspoken guilt about that we should feel so thankful and would be ungrateful to even want anything more than what we have.
So, I did it kind of in secret when I went off to college.